We know that menopause brings many changes, both physical and emotional. But one aspect we tend to shy away from are issues related to sex ... or lack of it. Vaginal dryness in particular can significantly affect intimacy, so here's why lubrication is a necessity.
Why Is Sex So Good For Us?
A fulfilling sex life contributes significantly to overall physical, mental and emotional health. It triggers the release of endorphins, often referred to as "feel-good" hormones, that act as natural stress relievers, alleviating tension and promoting a sense of relaxation. Regular sex has also been linked to a stronger immune system, releasing antibodies and immune-boosting cells that fight off infections and illnesses, as well as increasing heart rate and improving blood circulation.
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Aside from the physical benefits, feeling desired strengthens the bond between you and your partner, boosting body image, self-esteem and connection. You can read more in my blog post here.
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All well and good ... but what if you're suffering vaginal dryness?
According to research, more than half of menopausal women suffer dryness or pain during sex. This is caused by a drop in oestrogen that affects the vaginal lining, reducing elasticity and moisture levels, and leads to discomfort and a decrease in desire and satisfaction.
Ladies, it's time to get the lube out! Why? Because lubrication is a quick fix for discomfort as it provides a smooth, frictionless experience, reducing irritation and soreness during and after intercourse. This way, we can focus on the intimate connection rather than physical discomfort.
Choosing the Right Lubricant
Not all lubes are created equal, and selecting the right one is paramount. Consider the following when choosing a lubricant during menopause:
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Water-based lubricants, like YES WB, provide a natural feel, are easy to clean and are compatible with various materials, including latex condoms. As a longer-term solution, YES VM is a natural vaginal moisturiser which relieves dryness and itching. It is pH matched to work in harmony with your body, and because it's a moisturiser it lasts longer than a traditional lubricant.
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If you're ready for a marathon session in the sack, try an oil-based one, such as YES OB. It keeps dry tissue nourished with a soothing combination of almond oil, cocoa and shea butter, and doubles as a massage oil too (note: because it is oil-based it is not compatible with condoms).
Embracing Intimacy During Menopause
Menopause really doesn't need not mark the end of fulfilling intimacy. We can all reclaim control over our sex lives to foster those vital emotional connections and physical pleasure. Prioritise your wellbeing, communicate openly with your partner, explore the possibilities of lube and most importantly have fun in the process. Yes, menopause comes with an endless list of issues, but it can also be a time of renewed intimacy and self-discovery.
Dr Julia Sen Health & Wellness is one of the few clinics in the UK to offer the state-of-the-art Votiva, an effective women’s health procedure designed to give you back your quality of life. It targets a whole host of issues, including vaginal dryness, and vulva tightening, and improved tissue quality. By treating these, clients experienced an increase in natural lubrication and more pleasurable sex. Win win!
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